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I've reached the stage where I borderline dislike my bias but I have a hard time leaving the fandom because I've grown attached and stanning him as become one of my main hobbies, I wanna say I'll leave of this comeback will leave me disatisfied but I genuinely don't know what else to do like I like drawing and writing but all of my hobbies have been centered around my stanning experience for over a year, most of my friends are stand too You don't have to reply or read as I know negativity can be exhausting I just wanted to vent lol
why don't u get a new bias then or switch your stan environment im not sure why you feel like this but you don't have to stick to something you're beginning to dislike I understand ur attached and it's a bit different since theyre temporary but I feel like you should at least enjoy what ur doing
I'm not saying this to be snarky but for you or anyone who has this relationship with stanning you should try improving your intellectual life. No lie, i like kpop (cleary, since i'm here) but at its core its a completely brainless emotionally unfulfilling mental preoccupation without communal or otherwise energizing activities (e.g. dance, fashion, socializing at meet ups or concerts, etc.) to go along with it. drawing and writing are great solitary hobbies but if all your creative inspo is routed in kpop, you should try decentering kpop from your creative endeavors bc if you do eventually unstan that can hurt your drive to draw and write. maybe explore tangentially related media as a starting point such as korean art/literature or culture/art criticism (everyone should read susan sontag in their lifetime) or idk the sight and sound best film list. expand your creative horizons. also this is tangential but as someone who had left kpop for a while and came back for bp/zb1, their short contract was actually a huge draw and reason for me to stick around thus far LOL. i was like yeah, i can do 2.5 years of semi-active stanning as supplementation to my more substantial hobbies, then more passively follow my bias post-disbandment. It's possible to strike a good balance if thats what you want 👍
yea like there needs to be balance and just awareness of what you're really into you can't allow for your life to be consumed. Even though I run an active kpop cc I rlly try not to let it affect my general enjoyment or even what I do outside of it it's possible im sorry you feel that way but hopefully it gets better
For me I've always been a casual kpop stan but for zb1 I do have a parasocial emotional attachment that meddles in my private life and does bring me distress, I really wish I could detach but whenever bad things happen to them or when I just make scenarios in my head about them being terrible people it actually affects me😭 do you guys feel me or am I insane
Don't get me wrong I'm not the best at detaching but once I'm over it I can move on from it but like I will lose my mind in the moment it's bad 😭 I think being able to recognize ur emotions and why ur upset is good enough you can detach when needed but I feel you it affects me I try to avoid things on purpose for that reason. it's human and liking smth this much will make negative reactions worse like I was going through it last era it was so sad (mostly because being active here means I subject myself to so much more 🤦♀️) but it's a matter of not letting all this fester and giving urself a break. BUT WHYRE YOU IMAGINING THAT 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 that i don't feel u on sorry